New Arousr Blog Post Explores 'Shut Up and Pay Me' Mentality

New Arousr Blog Post Explores 'Shut Up and Pay Me' Mentality

MONTREAL — Arousr has published a new blog post, “Shut Up and Pay Me,” on the topic of online sex workers who display “open animosity towards their clientele.”

Arousr Social Media Manager FemmeFatale wrote the piece as a means to inspire discussion about “bitter content creators who often treat customers like a walking ATM.”

“It seems that the attitude most of these content creators, both women and men, uphold is that of the old guard,” FemmeFatale wrote. “Also known as 'stripper logic,' this is a train of thought that puts the performer in a hierarchy over their audience. They are no longer just a performer there to fulfill the client’s needs in a business transaction. They are now somehow better than the audience that pays money to see them.”

She notes that “creators will find themselves overextending what their bodies can do or pushing their own physical boundaries just to make quick sales. The lack of planning, understanding of the adult industry as a whole, long-term strategy and sometimes pure desperation for an ego boost, likes and money all coagulate into a burnt-out performer before they have even hit their stride.”

FemmeFatale thinks that “the long-term solution to the ‘shut up and pay me’ attitude, the ego, the thirst trap photos just for likes or in hopes of making a single sale for the day is to concentrate more on connection.”

“The very thing most adult performers do not want to do is exactly what will keep them having a sustainable career for the long haul,” she concluded.

To read “Shut Up and Pay Me,” visit Arousr.com.

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