LOS ANGELES — Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey is touting her insight into "consensual non-consent."
“A consensual non-consent scene is negotiated where one party gives up total control and autonomy — including the ability to give or withdraw consent — to the other party,” Bisbey said. “The main motivator is when people want to engage in, say, a realistic rape or kidnap scene and want to be able to shout NO and really fight without the scene ending. No matter the negotiation, you can withdraw your consent at any time, and there needs to be a clear way to let your partner know that you want to stop the scene.”
“Know who you are dealing with, and make sure to vet the person with others specifically about this type of scene,” she added. “Start your negotiation with definitions, make sure that someone outside the two of you is aware of what you are doing, when and where, then write out your agreement and sign it. This way it is clear what was agreed to in full.”
The accredited advanced GSRD therapist and sex/intimacy coach specializes in working with couples looking to expand their relationship boundaries outside the monogamy box on the British reality series, “Open House: The Great Sex Experiment.”
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